5 Tips for Finding Balance in Chaotic Times

Balance Do you ever find it difficult to find balance during chaotic times?!

Keeping calm, cool, and collected in the face of chaos can certainly make life feel easier but let’s face it, this is sometimes easier said than done! 🙂

So do you do it? How can YOU find balance when overwhelmed by the chaos?

Well, first I think it’s important to question your definition of the word “balance”.

Does it mean staying calm, cool, and collected ALL the time?

If so, you might be setting yourself up for unnecessary overwhelm and disappointment.

WHY? Because your expectation to feel that way ALL the time means balance can never be achieved.

If that’s the case, than balance as a concept is really just a myth!

Instead, what if balance was more about your ability to know when you’re out of balance and your ability to quickly course-correct and get back on track? 

With this in mind, I’d like to share a short 5 minute video I created this month with 5 Tips for Finding Balance in Chaotic Times!

Simply click on the video link below:

5 Tips for Finding Balance in Chaotic Times

I hope you’ll en-JOY and find these tips useful for helping you find balance when you need it the most!

As always… here’s to embracing your greatness! 🙂

Jess in Red

    Peace, love, & light…

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…empowering YOU to LOVE yourself & your life!

How to Create a “Health” Mindset

Have you ever wondered how to go about create a “health” mindset in your life?

For close to 10 years I suffered deeply from major low back pain, trying one thing after another to “fix the problem”.

In fact, I thought I was doing everything I could to address the physical symptoms I was experiencing – pain medication, chiropractic care, acupuncture, & massage therapy just to name a few.
NONE of it made a difference.
In fact, if anything… it got worse!

WHY? Well, I believe it was because my focus of attention was on the following:

  1. fixing the problem vs. seeking a solution
  2. looking for someone who could fix me vs. fixing myself (i.e. taking ownership of & personal responsibility for my physical, mental, & emotional health)
  3. addressing symptoms vs. the root cause of the physical pain  
The truth is that back then I felt hopeless, punished & broken. The more hopeless, punished & broken I felt, the worse I felt! 🙁

Ultimately, this is what led to me having a “sickness” mindset that greatly exacerbated my physical health!

After MANY years of trying to fix the problem, looking for someone to fix me, & trying to address the symptoms I finally realized that my perspective & focus of attention was fixated on what I did NOT want.

It was then that I decided to start focusing on the solution, fixing myself, addressing the root cause of the problem & moving toward what I really wanted.

Upon doing this, I came up with some realizations (from this more open-minded, flexible place) that would lead me to what I really desired & here’s what I realized:

  • Instead of focusing on managing & eliminating pain, I realized I could focus on creating strength, flexibility & vitality in my body, mind, & spirit.
  • Instead of viewing this as a problem, I realized I could look at it as an opportunity to learn how to take care of & heal myself from the inside out.
  • Instead of feeling resentment over feeling punished, I realized I could feel gratitude for the health I did have & the power to change what wasn’t working.
  • Instead of feeling helpless & looking outside myself to be “fixed”, I realized I could commit to taking back control of my health.

AND, when I actually started to focus more often on all of the above, I felt better!

Additionally, this shift toward a more positive “health” mindset that allowed me to start taking positive steps in the right direction & also led to:

  • my mindset became more open-minded & flexible
  • my actions shifted in a positive direction
  • greater self-awareness
  • increased strength, flexibility, & vitality
  • higher wisdom & non-attachment
  • gratitude, joy, & happiness
  • MORE of what I really wanted!

And most importantly, a significant reduction of pain (mental, emotional AND physical!).

So… my challenge to YOU, Contact First Name, is to identify ONE aspect of your physical health or appearance that you would like to shift your perspective on.

Then, do the following exercise to shift your perspective & give you something to practice:

  1. Make a list of all the current beliefs (healthy or unhealthy!) you have about this aspect of your physical health.
  2. For any belief that is unhealthy or dis-empowering in any way, identify what you really desire in that area.
  3. Write a present-tense affirmation that represents the essence of that desire. For example: “My spine is crooked & degenerated” would become “I am creating a healthy, strong, flexible, & supple spine!”.
  4. For any belief that is healthy or empowering, write down the essence of that belief as a present-tense affirmation.
  5. Print this list & read each affirmation daily.  

As you review this list daily, over time you will start to experience a shift in your mindset. 

AND, because your focus of attention is on what you really want more often, you will likely find yourself taking small steps along the way that will lead you back to the sound physical health that you really desire. 🙂

Connecting With Your Deepest Desires

Life's PurposeThis month’s Self-Mastery Spotlight on connecting with your deepest desires will give you clarity & a new sense of direction that will inspire and delight you in 2014! 🙂

Before sharing how to do this, it’s important first to look at what the definition of desire actually is. According to www.dictionary.com the definition of desire is as follows:

de· sire (n.) – a longing or craving, as for something that brings satisfaction or enjoyment.

Ok, so why is it important to connect with your deepest desires?

Well, think about this… when you crave something, you’re more motivated & inspired to take action.

AND, when you’re satisfied with or enjoying what you do, effort put forth seems easier!

Not only that but desire helps you persevere until you attain what you desire! 

Therefore, it goes without saying that the chances of you accomplishing what you desire are HIGHER when there is a deep longing or craving for it in place. 🙂

So here’s this month’s Self-Mastery tip that will get you connected to your deepest desires quickly:

  1. On a blank sheet of paper, write down the area of your life that you’d like to explore. For example:
    1. Professional
    2. Personal
    3. Health
    4. Relationship
    5. etc…
  2. Beneath the area of your life you want to explore, write “My deepest burning desire is…”  
  3. From there, simply write down everything you desire in that area in free-hand format (or in bullet points).  *NOTE: Make sure that you write as if there are no limitations to what you can create!  

To help you really connect to your deepest desires, be sure to reflect upon & consider the following when writing:

  • What will bring you the most JOY, inspiration, or delight?
  • What will reverse any pain or suffering that you’re experiencing now or in the past?
  • What will bring you the greatest satisfaction & sense of accomplishment?

You can write your desires for 2014 OR for what you want to be, do, or have in this lifetime.

Remember, anything that’s out of sight is usually out of mind, so review regularly to keep you connected to your deepest burning desires so that you can 1) be reminded to take action in that direction as much as possible & 2) be on the lookout for opportunities that will lead you where you want to go!