How to Heal Your Life & Set Yourself Free!

Transformation Hands_ButterflyHave you ever felt deprived of the change, happiness, freedom, & success you desire?

Wouldn’t it be great if you could end this cycle of deprivation once and for all?

The first thing that needs to happen is to become clear on WHAT exactly you are feeling deprived of.

For example, what items from the list below are you deprived of?

  • Sleep
  • Emotional support
  • Time to yourself
  • Physical energy
  • Companionship
  • Peace
  • Hope
  • Touch

Another way to determine areas of your life where you may be feeling deprived is to consider the following

  • On a scale of 1-10 (with 10 being extraordinarily happy), what rating would you give to your current level of happiness?
  • What’s needed to fill in what’s missing?

Your responses to the exercise above is what you’re deprived of!

At this point, simply prioritize and determine what area of your life you’d like to fill in first. You now have clarity on where you are now AND a goal or intention for change!

From here, it’s time to create and implement a self-care ritual that will allow you to begin taking steps to fill in what’s missing. For example, if I am missing physical energy in my life there are a number of actions I could take, such as:

  • Eat organic healthy fruits, vegetables, & grass-fed meat that heals my body & increases my physical energy
  • Exercise more and regularly
  • Schedule consistent downtime
  • Load balance energy-fueling & energy-draining tasks in my calendar
  • Set better boundaries with myself & others
  • Sleep at least 8 hours/night
  • etc….

The most important part of taking action is to practice your self-care regularly and consistently so that you can eventually reach the point of self-mastery. This is the point where you’ve set yourself free & become your very own hero!

AND, if blocks or limitations are preventing you from taking regular and consistent action, either reach out and ask for support or commit yourself to growth. Surround yourself with positive people who uplift and inspire you. Hire a coach. See a therapist. Face and transform your darkness. Learn how to let go of the past. Practice forgiving yourself and others. Learn new skills.

Just remember, take small actions and steps until you can increase your confidence and improve your competency. Over time, this will build up momentum and help you create repeatable change in your life in a way that seems simple and easy!

Are you willing to ask for, work toward, and receive what’s currently missing for you so that you can set yourself free & heal your life? 🙂


Jess Bonasso, otherwise known as The Self Care Goddess, empowers others to break free from limitation & set themselves free!

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Why Self-Care is Better for You Than Self-Discipline

Have you ever struggled with the self-discipline it takes to create the happiness and success you desire?

Why is that?

I have a theory about why self-discipline is so challenging and it’s related to the conditioning and beliefs we’ve developed as a culture around what the word “self-discipline” actually means.

Consider for a moment the following definition of the word “self-discipline”:

self-discipline – n. discipline and training of oneself, usually for improvement

Typically, the words “discipline” and “training” tend to be more masculine in nature, which means any action taken is going to require focus, attention, effort and maybe even some good old “hard work”. For some, it may also mean that it will feel more like something that “has” to be done (i.e. obligation) vs. something that “wants” to be done (i.e. desire).

When trying to create change in your life, do these qualities sound like a “joyful or fun” experience to you?

From a mindset perspective, not really.

So why is self-care better for you than self-discipline…?

In a nutshell, here’s why. First, consider now the definition of the word “self-care”:

self-care – n. care of the self without medical or other professional consultation

Don’t you agree that “care of the self” tends to sound more loving and nurturing in nature?

Of course it does!

And although there may still be self-discipline and effort involved in learning how to “care for yourself” on your own, consider how empowering it is to overcome obstacles that hold you back without the help from outside sources! Not only that, but “self-care” comes from a place of desire vs. obligation, which means the energy that drives your actions will be much more feminine in nature (i.e. loving, gentle, nurturing, and desiring).

So when it comes time to create change in your life would you rather create from a place of self-discipline or self-care? 🙂

For me, I’ve found that choosing “self-care” rituals to create what I desire in life feels like less effort, is far more enjoyable, and way more effective than creating actions based on “self-discipline”.


Jess Bonasso, otherwise known as The Self Care Goddess, empowers others to love their self, health, & life through radical self-love, radiant self-care, & empowered self-mastery!

Are you ready to be your very own hero?

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How to Be of Service Without Self-Sacrifice

Most of us have heard the saying “give unto others as you would have done to you” but how do you know when the gifts you give to others are no longer serving you OR those you are trying to serve?

 

Early on in my business as a self-care & soul guidance coach, I learned some important lessons about giving TOO much of myself.
When I first started seeing clients, I desperately wanted to provide them with the best service I could render.

 

I knew the importance of good customer service and there was a part of me that believed if I bent over backwards to take care of my client that it would result in happier clients, more referrals, and greater financial prosperity!

On one hand, my desire to be of service was greatly beneficial to me because it taught me all the best ways to take care of my clients.On the other hand, I was so focused on my desire to be of service that I said “YES” far more often then was healthy, which resulted in me sacrificing myself more often than not.

Fortunately, this experience helped me better understand the difference between self-sacrifice and self-care!

It also taught me the importance of setting boundaries with my time, energy, and money.

Whether you have clients of your own or just friends and family in your life that you are offering your gift of service to, there IS a way to offer even GREATER service than you do now without the self-sacrifice!

To help you provide service that takes care of BOTH you and others, here are a few simple recommendations to create service-based results that are WIN-WIN all the way around:

  1. Only offer your gift of service from a place of  joy and true choice. Offering a service that you “have to or feel “forced” to offer is going to make you feel angry, bitter, or resentful will only set up everyone involved for failure. As a general rule of thumb, offer up your time, energy, and commitment to things that feel joyful, light, and free of resistance.
  2. Take time to consider the ripple effects if heaviness or resistance is present. If necessary, ask for time to think about the level of time, energy, and commitment that will be needed to provide the service you desire. Also, consider delegating, de-committing, or delaying the task to another time to make things feel more joyful, light, or free for everyone involved.
  3. Take responsibility for the decisions you make. If you don’t like the outcome of something, consider how the choices and decisions you make might prevent it from happening next time.
  4. Avoid over-committing yourself.  Jam-packing your schedule full of commitments will drain you of your energy, create emotional discontent, and make it more difficult to render the service you desire.
  5. Prioritize, reorganize, and adhere to your schedule daily so that you can focus only on the most important things, one thing at a time.
  6. Refuel your energy stores regularly. To keep from feeling depleted, exhausted, or overwhelmed by your commitments say “YES” to yourself by setting aside regular, consistent time for self-care, downtime, hobbies, creativity, exercise, etc… Not only will this recharge and make you more effective in the service that you’re rendering but it also keeps others from taking advantage of you.
  7. Load-balance energy-fueling and energy-draining activities throughout your day and week to prevent burnout.

Of course, there are many unique and different ways to provide service without sacrificing yourself.

In addition to implementing some of the above recommendations, you might also want to consider what this might look like for yourself by asking yourself the following questions:

  • In what ways have I sacrificed my health & well-being to take care of others?
  • What has this cost me?
  • How could I prevent this kind of self-sacrifice in the future in a way that’s WIN-WIN for all involved?

Going through this process will help you determine ways to take better care of yourself while still providing the service you desire.

I hope you’ve found this helpful and if you have other ideas or ways to provide service without self-sacrifice, please share in the comments below! 🙂


Jess Bonasso, otherwise known as The Self Care Goddess, empowers others to LOVE them SELF, their HEALTH, and their LIFE!

For more information, click HERE to learn about Jess OR call 720-333-6796 TODAY to schedule a *COMPLIMENTARY* Self Care Wellness Consult!

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How to Free Yourself From Fear

This month’s Self-Mastery Spotlight is on how to free yourself from fear!

In a previous article I spoke about The 7 Fears That Sabotage Your Life, which is great for helping you become aware of what holds you back!

That being said, knowing the fears that hold you back is NOT the same as knowing how to FREE yourself from those fears, which is why I put together today’s video blog!

Wouldn’t it be great if you had a method you could use to not only FREE yourself of FEAR but of ANY dis-empowering emotion that might arise?

Wouldn’t this make YOUR life easier?!! Of course it would.

As many of you know, I’m an avid fan and deep seeker of personal growth and I’ve learned a few tricks over the years for reconditioning fear into freedom.

To assist you in discovering and understanding how to free yourself from fear, I’ve put together this short 5 minute video to share my thoughts on a very simple 3-part approach for transforming FEAR into FREEDOM.

To watch, simply click on the video link below:

And, if after practicing this approach in the weeks ahead you still find yourself fixated & focusing on FEAR, call me to schedule a *COMPLIMENTARY* Self Care Wellness Consult so that you can learn how I can help you release that fear… at a cellular level!

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En-JOY & have an amazing rest of your week! 🙂

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…empowering YOU to LOVE yourself & your life!

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