How to Be of Service Without Self-Sacrifice

Most of us have heard the saying “give unto others as you would have done to you” but how do you know when the gifts you give to others are no longer serving you OR those you are trying to serve?

 

Early on in my business as a self-care & soul guidance coach, I learned some important lessons about giving TOO much of myself.
When I first started seeing clients, I desperately wanted to provide them with the best service I could render.

 

I knew the importance of good customer service and there was a part of me that believed if I bent over backwards to take care of my client that it would result in happier clients, more referrals, and greater financial prosperity!

On one hand, my desire to be of service was greatly beneficial to me because it taught me all the best ways to take care of my clients.On the other hand, I was so focused on my desire to be of service that I said “YES” far more often then was healthy, which resulted in me sacrificing myself more often than not.

Fortunately, this experience helped me better understand the difference between self-sacrifice and self-care!

It also taught me the importance of setting boundaries with my time, energy, and money.

Whether you have clients of your own or just friends and family in your life that you are offering your gift of service to, there IS a way to offer even GREATER service than you do now without the self-sacrifice!

To help you provide service that takes care of BOTH you and others, here are a few simple recommendations to create service-based results that are WIN-WIN all the way around:

  1. Only offer your gift of service from a place ofย  joy and true choice. Offering a service that you “have to or feel “forced” to offer is going to make you feel angry, bitter, or resentful will only set up everyone involved for failure. As a general rule of thumb, offer up your time, energy, and commitment to things that feel joyful, light, and free of resistance.
  2. Take time to consider the ripple effects if heaviness or resistance is present. If necessary, ask for time to think about the level of time, energy, and commitment that will be needed to provide the service you desire. Also, consider delegating, de-committing, or delaying the task to another time to make things feel more joyful, light, or free for everyone involved.
  3. Take responsibility for the decisions you make. If you don’t like the outcome of something, consider how the choices and decisions you make might prevent it from happening next time.
  4. Avoid over-committing yourself.ย  Jam-packing your schedule full of commitments will drain you of your energy, create emotional discontent, and make it more difficult to render the service you desire.
  5. Prioritize, reorganize, and adhere to your schedule daily so that you can focus only on the most important things, one thing at a time.
  6. Refuel your energy stores regularly. To keep from feeling depleted, exhausted, or overwhelmed by your commitments say “YES” to yourself by setting aside regular, consistent time for self-care, downtime, hobbies, creativity, exercise, etc… Not only will this recharge and make you more effective in the service that you’re rendering but it also keeps others from taking advantage of you.
  7. Load-balance energy-fueling and energy-draining activities throughout your day and week to prevent burnout.

Of course, there are many unique and different ways to provide service without sacrificing yourself.

In addition to implementing some of the above recommendations, you might also want to consider what this might look like for yourself by asking yourself the following questions:

  • In what ways have I sacrificed my health & well-being to take care of others?
  • What has this cost me?
  • How could I prevent this kind of self-sacrifice in the future in a way that’s WIN-WIN for all involved?

Going through this process will help you determine ways to take better care of yourself while still providing the service you desire.

I hope you’ve found this helpful and if you have other ideas or ways to provide service without self-sacrifice, please share in the comments below! ๐Ÿ™‚


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90 Day Self Care Challenge โ€“ Week 4 & 5

Week 4 & 5 updates are in!!

October was an incredibly busy month for me & I found myself over-committed in many areas. This prevented me from staying “on task” as much as I would’ve liked w/ my 90 Day Self Care Challenge AND oddly enough, I am still making rapid progress in ALL areas!

YAY, me! ๐Ÿ™‚

Here are updates for each area:

Career – Progress on my new website & logo design are slowed down a bit due to over-commitment. I’m taking steps to alleviate the over-committment & plan to have this complete by the end of November!

Physical – Although I wanted to created DAILY routine, I’m finding that’s not what works best for me. I get far more benefit & see faster results when I do my core-strengthening when I’m INSPIRED vs. OBLIGATED. WOW! What an amazing concept! My back has been feeling amazing & I’m getting stronger every day. ๐Ÿ™‚

Emotional – I’m reconnecting with an old friend from college who I’d lost contact with, deepened my connection w/ several family members, & am waiting to hear back about getting together for lunch/dinner with a few others. All in all, my relationships are getting richer & more vibrant! AND, I got to spend some much needed Soulie time w/ some of my favorite girlfriends over Halloween & we had a blast. AHHHHH, the power of women! ๐Ÿ™‚

That’s all for now! Feel free to check out the video update I created for these 2 weeks below & if you’d like to learn more about how I can support you in embracing YOUR greatness, visit my website at www.Awaken-Within.com or call today for a complimentary exploratory session where you can experience first hand the benefits I can offer you!

90 Day Self Care Challenge - Week 4 & 5