How I Recovered From Perfectionism

Would you consider yourself a perfectionist?

I know of many times throughout life where I was struggling with perfectionism and you know what?

It’s been my experience that MANY of us struggle with the “perfectionist” mentality in our day-to-day lives!

Why?

I believe this tendency towards perfectionism is something we’re taught through familial & social programming, upbringing, & conditioning.Perfectionist Scale

And ultimately, what drives it all is a deep seated core fear or avoidance that will sabotage & play out in your life over & over again until you resolve this core fear at a cellular level.

For myself personally, it was my lonely childhood & high-pressure corporate background that taught me how to be my own worst critic. I can recall many times throughout my life where my toxic self-talk & judgment of myself or others over not meeting the high standards I used to set would sabotage my life & set me up for failure.

In a nutshell, it limited my greatness & it wasn’t until I started to heal the underlying core fear associated with perfectionism that it changed!

For many of my clients over the years, I’ve also seen the disintegrated side of perfectionism result in unhealthy behaviors (i.e. obsessive-compulsiveness, work-aholism to get things just “right”, closed-mindedness, hyper-judgmental etc…) that limit their greatness & won’t change until the root core fear is addressed & resolved.

So what does perfectionism really look like?

According to the Enneagram personality system that I’ve used to help clients discover their biggest core fears & behaviors over the past 10 years, perfectionism typically shows up in the following ways:

  • The “Internal critic” experienced as a constant stream of self-critical thoughts.
  • Judgment of self & others from constant comparison to an external standard of right/wrong against which everything is measured.
  • Attached to rules; resentful of any deviation to those rules by others.
  • Having an air of ethical and moral superiority; comes from their own drive for self-improvement.
  • Often perceived as a crusader, self-righteous, “do-gooder”.
  • Task oriented with an extreme preoccupation with work: “I can only play when the work is done and it’s never done”.
  • Detail-oriented, methodical, rigid in one’s thinking.
  • Quest is to be loved unconditionally, but they never attain it, never feel “enough”.
  • Feeling flawed inside, so critical of others in order to equalize – “I’m not good so I’ll focus on doing good things.”
  • Very self-controlled; cut off impulses and go to head to figure things out but are really “gut people masquerading as head people”.
  • Suffers from procrastination due to fear of making a mistake.
  • “Things are perfect when I am met, in all ways, by others.”
  • Tend to be black and white in thinking.

Does any of these apply to YOU??

If the answer is yes, you might be wondering how to recover from perfectionism.

The solution?

To resolve & heal the deep seated core fear or avoidance that drives the behavior & discover the growth path for becoming your very own hero!

According to the Enneagram model, the basic underlying core fear or avoidance that drive the Perfectionist behavior boils down basically to:

A deep-seated fear of being corrupt, evil, bad, or defective.

So you see… the behavior arises from the fear.

In order to be deemed as “good” or “right” by others, perfectionists will be ultra-focused on perfection, detail-oriented to the point of obsession (at times) & judgmental as a result of the high standards they hold for themselves. All to avoid being any of what they fear at a cellular level.

So what’s the growth path to help someone struggling with these fears & compulsions?

According to the Enneagram model, here are just a few ideas for growth:

  • Release judgment & the idea you can judge objectively.
  • Learn to see perfection in the moment, in the imperfection.
  • Reduce the dominance of your critical mind.
  • Get out of your mind and into your heart & gut.
  • Learn more than one “right” way, learn to see all sides (i.e. open-mindedness)
  • Get “messy”; lighten up, play and have fun.
  • Find, acknowledge, & heal your “dark side”.
  • Discover, acknowledge & fulfill your passionate desires.

In addition to incorporating any of the above, it can also be helpful to find a practitioner who can help you resolve at the root level the cellular memory associated with any of the deep-seated core fears that sabotage your life!

My favorite by far is a well-known healing modality known as The Journey Method® which has helped to heal thousands of people around the world & is something I’ve used to help clients break free of self-sabotage & accelerate their results since 2007.

Regardless of which of these options you choose, working WITH your fear (rather than against it) to heal & resolve past trauma is the key!

After all, what you resist, persists. 🙂


Jess Bonasso, otherwise known as The Self Care Goddess, helps busy, high-reaching super heroes struggling to juggle it all break-free of the sabotage that leads to burnout & re-ignite their radiance without sacrificing their soul, sanity, or health!

Are you ready to become your very own hero?

For more information, click HERE to learn about Jess OR HERE to apply for & schedule a COMPLIMENTARY* Discovery Consult!

To receive daily inspiration on how to break free from burnout & re-ignite your radiance, be sure to follow me on social media! 🙂

 

Love Your Self, Health, & Life!

A 3-Month Self-Care & Soul Discovery Bootcamp

Are you stuck & unable to create

the change, happiness, or success you desire?

If you want to break free from the physical, emotional, or mental barriers that limit your happiness & you’re ready to re-train your body, mind, & soul for success, this self-care & soul discovery bootcamp is for YOU!

During this empowering 3-month bootcamp experience you will discover how to systematically create change in ANY area of your life with a simple, repeatable system for self-care success that will empower you to:

LOVE YOUR SELF! ·  Saturday, 1/30 from 12 – 5 pm

Discover your mental saboteurs, release limitations & learn how to re-train your brain for success!

LOVE YOUR HEALTH! ·  Saturday, 2/27 from 12 – 5 pm

Assess & address your physical & emotional health with holistic tools, practices & wisdom!

LOVE YOUR LIFE! ·  Saturday, 3/26 from 12 – 5 pm

Reveal your joy-based desires, hero strengths, & unique core values that inspire you to greatness!

WHERE:

Journeys For Conscious Living

7401 w. 59th Ave. · Arvada, CO 80003

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· PLUS! ·

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You’ll also receive ALL of the following & more:

Powerful Self-Assessment & Self-Discovery Tools:

Self-Care Assessment

Enneagram Personality Assessment

Passion & Life Purpose Discovery

Monthly Group Coaching Calls:

For checking in, coaching, & assessment!

Friday, 2/19 at 12 pm MT

Friday, 3/18 at 12 pm MT

Friday, 4/8 at 12 pm MT

Monthly Group Training Calls:

For additional training related to each month’s area of focus!

Friday, 2/5 at 12 pm MT

Friday, 3/4 at 12 pm MT

Friday, 4/1 at 12 pm MT

Empowering Self-Care Practices:

Diet & Nutrition Empowerment

Gratitude Practices

Physical & Emotional Release Techniques

Stress Management Techniques

Relaxation Techniques

Mindset Reconditioning

Mantras & Affirmations

Core Value Identification

Life’s Purpose Discovery

Unhealthy Behavior Release

Manifestation & Abundance Training

Essential Oils for Health & Happiness

Partner Accountability & Check-Ins

& more!

 

 ** Working with me 1-on-1 on all of the above would cost you well over $2500! **

The good news is that with this bootcamp you get ALL of this & more for the following LOW investment:

 

YOUR INVESTMENT: $997!

 

For those that take action to embrace their greatness, payment plans AND the following bonus discounts are also available!

 

**EARLYBIRD DISCOUNT**

Receive $150 off! your overall investment when you register by Friday, 1/15!

 

**BONUS DISCOUNT!**

Come to one of 3 introductory workshops in January to

receive an even deeper, bonus discount off your investment!

For more information & to see the dates/times available, visit:

www.RadiantSelfCare.com/freeyourself.

 

Are YOU ready to be your very own hero?

 

If yes, no delays… register TODAY!

Last day to register is Wednesday, 1/27!

 

Registration Details & Reminders:

  • REGISTER EARLY!
    • Earlybird discount of $150 off applies for all registrations on or before Friday, 1/15!
    • Registration is limited to 20 participants
  • Last day to register & secure payment is Wednesday, 1/27/2016
  • Pay in full or in 3 monthly payments! (see payment options below)

 Cancellation Policy:

  • Cancellations on or before 1/15/2016 will be refunded payment minus a $50 cancellation fee!
  • Cancellations after 1/15/2016 will be refunded payment minus a $75 cancellation fee!

OR, you may also choose from the following options:

  • Transfer your payment to a future 3-month bootcamp program or alternate coaching service!
  • Receive a FULL refund by finding someone to take your place at the bootcamp. We’ll gladly refund your payment in FULL (after the new participant has registered and paid!

Payment Options:


To pay in full, simply register below:



To set up a 3-month payment plan*, please contact Jess at 720-333-6796 no later than Wednesday, 1/27 to make payment arrangements.

*NOTE: A payment plan fee of $75 will be added to your overall total investment for the bootcamp, to be paid in 3 equal monthly payments!

 


Facilitated by Jess Bonasso, otherwise known as The Self Care Goddess. Jess is a Self-Care & Soul Guidance Coach, motivational speaker, author, trainer, registered yoga teacher (RYT), & essential oils enthusiast!


She lives in Lakewood, CO with her amazing man & 2 dogs. She loves cooking, yoga, walking, hiking, & connecting!Her passion & mission in life is to empower others to love their SELF, HEALTH, & LIFE through courageous self-inquiry, radiant self-care, enlightened self-mastery, & radical soul discovery!

Areas of expertise include: self care & soul guidance, freedom from self-sabotage, mindset & self-mastery, essential oils empowerment, & restorative/therapeutic yoga instruction. 

To receive daily inspiration you can follow Jess on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, or YouTube!OR, receive a complimentary Self-Care Assessment tool & monthly “Goddess Guidance” by signing up for the newsletter on her website at www.RadiantSelfCare.com.

http://radiantselfcare.com/events-retreats/ilovemylife/

Heal Your Life!

An Introduction to Life-Mastery & A Self-Care Immersion

ARE YOU SICK OF FEELING STUCK &

UNABLE TO CREATE WHAT YOU DESIRE?

If you’re sick of being stuck AND you’re ready for greater happiness, health, freedom, & success my upcoming Heal Your Life! introductory workshop & 3-month self-care immersion might be just what you need to set yourself free!

OPTION #1:

Heal Your Life!

An Introduction to Life-Mastery

To start you on your journey to greatness, join us first at this 2-hour introductory workshop!

Not only will you discover a simple, proven & repeatable formula for attaining life-mastery & success but you’ll also walk away with the #1 commitment needed to empower you to go from feeling stuck to UNSTOPPABLE!

 

· PLUS! ·

Receive a special VIP offer for my upcoming 3-month Heal Your Life! Self-Care Immersion

(see OPTION #2 below) just by attending the Introduction workshop!

 

   YOUR COST: ONLY $25!

Bring a friend or loved one for only $5 more!

 

ARE YOU READY TO SET YOURSELF FREE?

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 Multiple dates & locations to choose from:

For Heaven’s Sake Bookstore

4900 W. 46th Avenue

Denver, CO 80212

 Wednesday, 4/27

7:00 – 9:00 pm

 

Rishi’s Community Yoga Studio

 2750 S. Wadsworth Boulevard

Building D, Suite 202

Denver, CO 80227

Sunday, 5/1

1:00 – 3:00 pm

 

  Journeys for Conscious Living

 7401 W. 59th Avenue

Arvada, CO 80003

Tuesday, 5/3

7:00 – 9:00 pm

Payment Options:


To register, choose the date you would like to attend below:



Cancellation Policy:

If for some reason you are unable to attend after registering, your payment for this workshop is transferable to another date, time, service OR to a friend or loved one to make use of.

Otherwise, your registration is your commitment to be there. We look forward to seeing you there! 🙂

OPTION #2:

Heal Your Life!

A Self-Care Immersion

To uplift, guide, & support you at a deeper level on your journey to greatness, you can also consider joining us for my upcoming 3-month self-care immersion program!

Not only will you break free from limitation & learn how to create repeatable change in ANY area of your life but you’ll also

 

AWAKEN YOUR GREATNESS!

  Saturday, 5/21 from 9 – 5 pm

Experience radical self-discovery, release limitation, & learn how to re-train yourself for greatness!

EMPOWER YOUR SELF!

  Saturday, 6/18 from 9 – 5 pm

Empower ANY area of your life through ancient self-care rituals & guidance for body, mind, & spirit!

IGNITE YOUR LIFE!

Saturday, 7/16 from 9 – 5 pm

Ignite true self-mastery by discovering your passions, purpose, contribution, & call to greatness!

 

WHERE:

  Journeys for Conscious Living

 7401 W. 59th Avenue · Arvada, CO 80003

 

· PLUS! ·

You’ll also receive ALL of the following & more!

 

Powerful Self-Assessment & Self-Discovery Tools:

Self-Care Assessment

Enneagram Personality Assessment

Passion Discovery

Life Purpose Discovery

Value & Contribution Discovery

 

Monthly Group Coaching Calls:

For checking in, coaching, & assessment!

Friday, 5/27 at 12 pm MT

Friday, 6/24 at 12 pm MT

Friday, 4/8 at 12 pm MT

 

Monthly Group Training Calls:

For additional training related to each month’s area of focus!

Friday, 6/10 at 12 pm MT

Friday, 7/8 at 12 pm MT

Friday, 7/22 at 12 pm MT

 

Partner & Group Gatherings:

Partner Accountability & Check-Ins

Group Mastermind & Support Gatherings

Final Celebration Gathering

 

Empowering Self-Care Practices:

Diet & Nutrition Empowerment

Gratitude Practices

Physical & Emotional Release Techniques

Stress Management Techniques

Relaxation Techniques

Mindset Reconditioning

Mantras & Affirmations

Core Value Identification

Life’s Purpose Discovery

Unhealthy Behavior Release

Manifestation & Abundance Training

Essential Oils for Health & Happiness

& more!

 

** Working with me 1-on-1 on all of the above would cost you well over $4000! **

During this immersion you’ll receive ALL of this & more for the following low, low cost of:

 

ONLY $1499!

(payment plans are available)

 

ARE YOU READY TO BE YOUR VERY OWN HERO?

 If yes, no delays… register TODAY!

 

Registration is limited to ONLY 8 PARTICIPANTS & the last day to register is Friday, 5/13!

 

** BONUS OFFERS! **

Ways to Save

  • Attend the Heal Your Life! An Introduction to Life-Mastery workshop to receive a discounted rate (only available to those that attend)!
  • Go easy on your budget by spreading out payments over a period of time. Payment plans ARE available!

VIP Freedom Accelerator Upgrades

For those seeking deeper healing, transformation, & guidance there are also upgrades* available for private 1-on-1 coaching to occur during the immersion AND beyond if you desire!

*NOTE: Payment plans available for both the immersion & any upgrades you choose.

Registration Details:

In order to apply for the Heal Your Life! Self-Care Immersion, you will first need to send an email entitled “Self-Care Immersion Interest” to Jess Bonasso at Jess@RadiantSelfCare.com with your responses to the following:

  1. Full name, email address, & phone number
  2. Why do you believe this immersion might be right for you?
  3. What is your vision of an ideal life?
  4. What is your vision for your life one year from today?
  5. What are the top 3 things currently missing that you’d most like to change?
  6. What are your biggest fears & frustrations about changing these areas?
  7. On a scale of 1-10 (with 10 being totally dedicated & committed), how dedicated & committed are you right now to making this happen?

Once I’ve received your email with your replies, you will be contacted by phone or email within 48 hours to set up a time for a complimentary 30-minute private consultation to see if taking part in this program is right for you!

Cancellation Policy:

  • Cancellations on or before 5/13/2016 will be refunded payment minus a $50 cancellation fee!
  • Cancellations after 5/13/2016 will be refunded payment minus a $100 cancellation fee!

OR, you may also choose from the following options:

  • Transfer your payment to a future 3-month immersion program or alternate coaching service!
  • Receive a FULL refund by finding someone to take your place at the immersion. We’ll gladly refund your payment in FULL (after the new participant has registered and paid)!

Facilitated by Jess Bonasso, otherwise known as The Self Care Goddess. Jess is a Self-Care & Soul Guidance Coach, motivational speaker, author, trainer, registered yoga teacher (RYT), & essential oils enthusiast!

She lives in Lakewood, CO with her amazing man & 2 dogs. She loves cooking, yoga, walking, hiking, & connecting!

Her passion & mission in life is to empower others to break free from the barriers that hold them back & become their very own hero!

Areas of expertise include: self care & soul guidance, freedom from self-sabotage, mindset & self-mastery, essential oils empowerment, & restorative/therapeutic yoga instruction. 

To receive daily inspiration you can follow Jess on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, or YouTube!

OR, receive a complimentary Self-Care Assessment tool & monthly “Goddess Guidance” by signing up for the newsletter on her website at www.RadiantSelfCare.com!

http://radiantselfcare.com/events-retreats/freeyourself/